By now, you’ve likely heard about sexting–you know, where you send a sexy text, photo, or video? Google sexting and your results will mostly tell you the hazards involved. On the other hand, the website Real Simple had some easy tips for improving your...
As a couples therapist, I spend a fair amount of time thinking about what makes a relationship strong. In some ways, there’s no easy answer to this question. But through my professional experience (and my own as a married person), I think it can best be distilled...
I rarely take the stance that emotions are something to be side-stepped or disregarded. Most of the time, I write about how we need to acknowledge and accept our emotional reality, and how we can’t move forward without making peace with our emotional truths. This...
Don’t get defensive is something we say all the time. Defensiveness is our natural and reflexive position when confronted with the idea that we’ve done something wrong or disappointed someone, particularly those we care about. Becoming defensive is easy, and...
One of the issues that we hear frequently in couples therapy, and also came up in our couples lunch last week, is that men lack emotion. The story goes that men simply feel less than women do, and aren’t as likely to become emotional. While the claim that men are...
There’s an idea going around that if your marriage is strong enough, then it should be immune to certain vulnerabilities. For instance, if you’re attracted or drawn to someone other than your spouse, you should still be able to spend time with that person, and your...