It’s Not Facebook, It’s Us
One of the complaints we hear frequently about social media is that seeing the edited versions of other people’s lives negatively impacts our view of our own lives. People we follow online choose which parts of themselves they want to share, and leave out...
Grace, Not Forgiveness
For some time now, I have been turning over the question of forgiveness, and in particular, what it means to forgive your partner within marriage. Forgiveness is often touted as the answer to making a relationship work. We see these messages in social media...
Stop “Should-ing” on Yourself
Sometimes it seems that we are at war with our feelings. We tell ourselves not to be sad, upset, or hurt. We say that we should feel grateful, or be more positive. Constantly, we focus on what we should and should not feel, what we’re allowed, as if feelings...
The Unexpected Gifts of Marriage
Marriage is so hard. You hear this on talk shows, on the internet, from elders—pretty much everywhere. I won’t lie—I’m a married person, and I’ve said this. And marriage is hard…sort of…but not really. Anyway, that’s for a different post. What we hear far...
Wounded Families – There Is a Better Way to Divorce
Guest Post by Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC The Washington Post had an article about Prince Harry’s trip to the US to promote the Invictus Games for wounded warriors. The article noted that when the Prince returned from Afghanistan with wounded soldiers he dedicated...
Marriage Interrupted
One of the topics that we touch on in the Marriage is Not That Hard episode is the problem of being attracted to other people while married, and how this impacts infidelity. Firstly, everyone feels attracted to other people. Some folks seem to think that if...
What’s the Matter with Hanging Out?
I’ve done it. Many of my clients and friends have done it. Maybe we’ve all done it at some point. We’ve continued to spend time with someone we cared about…who didn't quite feel the same way about us. We’ve eagerly anticipated their call or text, felt excited...
Valentine’s Day Gift Guide: Vulnerability
Vulnerability Be a soft place for tough feelings Intimacy is the force that animates our romantic relationships, and it includes many of the traits that we have highlighted in this guide: friendship, playfulness, desire, and now, vulnerability. Vulnerability is our...
Valentine’s Day Gift Guide: Wellness
Wellness healthy is the new sexy Give each other the gift of strong, healthy bodies! We all know exercise is often the first thing to go when we're busy. Make an effort to get some physical activity while spending time with your partner. Looking for ideas?...