The singular best parenting advice I know
In parenting, it can be difficult to figure out what to do when your child behaves in ways that you don’t like, or can’t seem to accomplish what you’ve asked of them. Difficult is one word for it—maddening may be more accurate. Based on my family therapy work with...
3 Behaviors that Scare Your Couples Therapist
It may surprise you to hear that infidelity is not necessarily the issue that worries couple therapists the most. In fact, while I recognize the emotional devastation and pain that infidelity causes, unless there is a history of habitual indiscretion, cheating on its...
How to Help Someone You Love
In the newsletter last week, we discussed how to take care of yourself when you’re going through a hard time. This week, we talk about how to support someone else who’s struggling with something difficult. It can be difficult to figure out how to help someone with...
Is Anxiety a Choice?
This post comes to us from therapist and best-selling author, Jodi Aman! Read more about her work below. Living in fear is a painful, lonely way to exist. People say our suffering is a choice. They are smart people, but this doesn’t feel right to the...
How to Not Be Okay
I am a big believer in the power to change one’s life (I mean, I’m a therapist, so duh.) I always think that with some effort, virtually any difficult circumstance can be improved, even if all we have changed is our orientation to the problem. That said, I am not a...
Language Matters: Getting Rid of Negative Self-talk and Pessimistic Thinking
Many of us are given to having a stream of negative self-talk in our minds; questioning our abilities, disparaging our character, doubting the success of our future, and more. And sure, sometimes we do this because of deep childhood-rooted issues that maybe we should...
Four Key Skills To Use When Solving Problems With Your Partner
I’ve been thinking about the importance of language in relationships. Because, as a therapist, and a wife, and a writer, this is sort of thing that I contemplate on my commute home from work. But I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the language we use with those we...
I’m Anxious, But I’m Yours
Lately, I have seen several articles about what to do for a loved one who is struggling with anxiety and other mental health disorders. Obviously, the emergence of these articles is a great thing, as it is important for persons who are dealing with chronic...
Who Are You and What Have You Done with My Kid?
Parenting teens and adolescents is hard. Sometimes parents find themselves wondering if it an alien has replaced their once sweet kid with a moody, irritable impostor. It’s debatable as to whether being an adolescent or parenting one is more difficult, but either way...