The Two Truths Problem
I don’t like my cat. It’s a relief to say it. I don’t allow myself to think about it very often, and saying it out loud (so to speak) is a bit scary, but also sort of like letting out a breath after holding it in for a long time. A good deal of my friends and family are animal lovers, so talking about you don’t like your own pet is not exactly acceptable in my social circles.
“Real World” Mental Health
As a college senior preparing to enter the “real world” (although college is definitely no fantasy land either), I am starting to realize that the free on-campus mental health resources that currently are just a walk down the street away, will not be so conveniently...
3 Ways to Stay Empowered While Dating
In an ideal world, dating would be straight-forward, and you’d take on the rest of your life with the one you love by your side. However, it’s 2017 and some people are as faithful as their options. With partners now just a swipe away, it’s easy to find yourself in the same early stages of dating over and over again.
Be Someone Else
One of the most difficult things to sit with in therapy, and in relationships with friends and family, is to be with a person who wants to make changes, but can’t seem to do it. We all either know or have been this person at some point in our lives.
It is All Your Stuff
Recently, my husband and I were riding together in the car, and got into a brief back and forth about using the GPS to find the way home. I should say up front that this is not unusual for us. Our friends and family have, by turns, teased us, joined in, or abruptly...
Stop, Drop, and Feel
One of the issues that we hear frequently in couples therapy, and also came up in our couples lunch last week, is that men lack emotion.
Why Trying to Control Your Feelings is Pointless
The prevailing world view is that emotion and logic operate in separate spheres of the brain, and as such, we can separate the two. Now, however, there’s a solid body of research that contradicts this claim, and reflects what I believe many of us who deal in...
Your Marriage Won’t Save Itself
There’s an idea going around that if your marriage is strong enough, then it should be immune to certain vulnerabilities. For instance, if you’re attracted or drawn to someone other than your spouse, you should still be able to spend time with that person, and your...
Why Get Married?
In the last newsletter, we talked about how whether a marriage survives depends on the willingness and desire of both people to continue to work on it. And with all this talk about working on marriage, inevitably some folks will ask, why bother? Marriage is a lot of...