How to Help Your Child Realize They’re Enough
Many parenting practices I discuss with families are contextual. Often, what I suggest a parent do depends on a family’s particular circumstances, their resources, the ages of their children, the temperaments of both kids and parents, their schedules. And as a...
Too Much Sext? Or Not Enough?
By now, you've likely heard about sexting--you know, where you send a sexy text, photo, or video? Google sexting and your results will mostly tell you the hazards involved. On the other hand, the website Real Simple had some easy tips for improving your relationship,...
It’s Turtles All the Way Down
What I’d like to do is scare you…and then offer a bit of hope. The topic is not something I like to think about much myself, because it induces a sort of peering into the void fear, a philosophical vertigo that leaves me lightheaded. The core concept is obvious. ...
In Your Feelings…
Some days ago, in my office, I began crying at my desk. It caught me off guard. I had been down, sure, but mostly mopey and whiny, and I didn’t think it was much deeper than that. But then a thought sent me tumbling over the edge, and there I was crying. I fumbled...
The Relationship Table
As a couples therapist, I spend a fair amount of time thinking about what makes a relationship strong. In some ways, there’s no easy answer to this question. But through my professional experience (and my own as a married person), I think it can best be distilled...
Help Yourself: 2018 Guide of Mental Health Resources
Thankfully, discussion and awareness about mental health and wellness is becoming more widespread in the United States today. Of course, private psychotherapy is only one way to receive counseling and mental health treatment,
Coping With Loss and Grief
Throughout the course of our lives, we will inevitably experience loss, and naturally, grief is a part of the process. Both loss and grief are not only predictable, but likely to occur repeatedly throughout the course of the lives of all individuals. The loss of a...
The Problem with Emotional Memory
I rarely take the stance that emotions are something to be side-stepped or disregarded. Most of the time, I write about how we need to acknowledge and accept our emotional reality, and how we can’t move forward without making peace with our emotional truths.
How to Avoid Defensiveness
Don’t get defensive is something we say all the time. Defensiveness is our natural and reflexive position when confronted with the idea that we’ve done something wrong or disappointed someone, particularly those we care about. Becoming defensive is easy, and avoiding it takes real effort.